We often see life through three lenses: how it is, how we want it to be, and how we think it should be. The most dangerous of these is should. It feels righteous, but it blinds us to reality and guarantees disappointment. When your expectations argue with reality, reality always wins.

We all have hobbies, but not all hobbies are equal. This post breaks down the three core types—consumption, participation, and creation—and explores why striking the right balance is crucial for fulfillment and mental well-being.